Did you hear?

Gossip is an interesting phenomenon in society.  We have whole webpages devoted to it and television shows that put it forth as well as tabloid papers.  What is it about gossip that makes people want to talk and know what is going on?  I can’t say I have never participated in gossip but I will say I try to avoid it as much as possible.

I have seen first hand how gossip and can hurt and damage another person’s life.  What was sad about it was that when those who were putting forth the gossip realized it was harming someone else they didn’t stop they just keep it going and added fuel to the fire.  What is that we have to hurt another human being by our actions?

Gossip itself does not help in the advancement of our lives or the lives or others.  Gossip can do more damage that it can to help.  As a matter of fact I have never heard of gossip helping anyone.  I love the quote I heard once that said, ” Gossip is the lowest form of discourse.”  instead of gossiping maybe we should reach out and help other people.


What do men know?

Generally I try ignoring certain people in the media because they talk and don’t seem to think.   One such person is Rush Limbaugh.  What I have heard come out of his mouth makes me wonder if his brain is every engaged.  Today I heard an audio of his show that reinforces my thought again.  There was a young woman who went to testify about the birth control before congress.  She was advocating having birth control available to women.  Now whether or not you agree with this issue is irrelevant for this post.  I believe it should be made available and if some choose to use it should be their option.  I digress.

In his show, Limbaugh began to call the young woman a slut because she was standing up for this issue.  What she does or does not do in her sexual life has nothing to do with issue.  For all we know she has never had sex and frankly it is none of our business.  Labeling or calling this woman a slut was wrong on so many different levels and I feel is bullying.  It reminds me of what grade school kids do on a playground to hurt other kids.  When will he grow up?


Where we headed

Now those who know me well know I am a technology junkie.  I like getting the latest new gadget when it comes out.  I love electronics and love to text and tweet and all the social media things.  As i was reflecting today I was think how great all these things are in our life and at the same time I got to thinking about what we may be losing.

When was the last time you state down and wrote a letter to a friend or family member who lives far away.  I know at one time I have personalized stationary that I would use and I would write three or four letter a week to friends and family.  I did find that box of stationary at the bottom of drawer today all dusty.  The only letters I have written lately have been for work and the art of personalized letters seems to be going away.  Recently I event got a form email thanking me for a wedding gift I gave.

It seems that as we continue to advance in forms of communications that other forms diminish.  Though i do think that we shouldn’t lose the art of a personal letter.

Its the simple things

I am one of those lucky people that I have a job that makes me happy and that I love.  I get to do something everyday to make others lives a little better.  I am also good and what I do and have been rewarded for doing my job so well and have the support of my superiors in the company.  Which made me think about what does it take to make me happy?

Now I could write some long dissertation on what happiness is from a philosophical perspective but I am not though it would be fun.  I would have to say it is the simple things in life that give me pleasure and happiness.  Now that is not to say that financial rewards or material rewards mean nothing but only add to my happiness.  For me it is those interactions with others in my life that give me pleasure and happiness.

What are those you may ask?  Well for me it is the little nice things that people do for me like telling me I am doing a good job on some project or activity I am doing.  To take time to notice improvements in the way I look or dress.  Taking time to do something unexpected and nice for me.  Showing concern or care for me and well being.

Now for some you may say that is natural and should be done.  The reality is that a lot of people don’t have the support from family or friends in what they are doing in their life.  For some there at not those people in their lives who give them encouragement and support.  There are not people who are doing those little things to make life good for them.  Yeah we need to develop them but at the same time we need people to be open to others.

Now I am not saying we befriend the whole world.  That is not what we need to do.  We need to do the little things for others around us.  It may be as simple as thank you or have a nice day.  Those who are important in our lives may require greater efforts but it will make a difference in someone’s life.

Who owns words?

Today I heard a rather crazy thing on the radio.  It seems that the guy who did the videos in the 90s about girls gone wild is trying to keep Madonna from releasing a song on her new album called girls gone wild.

Now I am all for those who do things artistically being given credit for what they do.  I myself am a photographer and have recently had a photo published.  I think that those who are creative need to be honored and recognized.  But the question is how far is to far?

Just because Madonna is releasing a song with this title does not mean it has anything to do with those videos.  The radio went so far as to show that there are numerous other groups who have the same or similar titles for songs.  The title does not always reflect what the song or the photo or any other artistic form is conveying.  It is up to the individual to interpret those words and gain something from them.

Bottom line on this issue is that this guy is sad he lost out on making more money.

What makes a good movie

Tonight I watched the Oscars.  Now I don’t usually watch all the awards show.  But tonight I felt like I wanted to watch this year since there was one movie I loved that was being nominated.  I was thinking as I was watching it about what makes a movie good.

Now I have a very wide range of movie tastes.  I like some corny movies and I like some great movies.  I like animation and I like teen movies.  I can’t say I like a particular style of movies.  I do know I don’t like horror movies.  I find that the awards shows rarely reflect my taste in movies.  So what makes a good movie?  What is it that these various groups look for in good movies?

While taste is subjective and each of us has his/her own ideas good is an important thing.  What movies do you like?

How far will you take a stand?

I don’t know if you have heard about an issue in Santa Fe, New Mexico.  A hairdresser said he will not longer cut the governor’s hair because of her stand on Gay Marriage.  It made the local news and then got picked up national news.

Now whether or not you agree on the issue is a different discussion.  What I wanted to focus on what would it take to stand for something you feel strongly about.  I know that personally I have a number of issues that I feel strong about and I would do something to let my voice be heard on those issues.  I know in the past I have made phone calls to legislators to them know my feelings on proposed laws and I have written letters.  I have signed petitions for various issues.  Now these are being active activities.  However, what this man did had an effect on his business.

Some may say that that is his thing and I hope that he is ready to lose business.  That may or may not happen.  We don’t know what will happen.  But we need to ask ourselves would I be willing to really take a stand even if it would have an effect my income.    It takes a lot guts to really take a stand for what you believe in.

Think about some of the great leaders who made a difference in our world such as Martin Luther King or Gandhi.   The stood for what they believed and really made a difference.  It is a real challenge I think to really stand for what you believe in.