How much is to much

Tonight I was speaking to someone who plays rugby.  I don’t know a lot about the sport but I do know that it can be dangerous some times.  I knew a guy in college who messed up a collar bone playing.  Which made me wonder how often do we put ourselves in situations that could cause us injury or endanger our lives.

I am not one to do crazy things in life where I might get hurt.  I have gone white water rafting if that is crazy but I have never been one to jump out of perfectly good planes.  I would say that sometimes we can get hooked on pushing the envelope.  How far is to far though?  What kinds of things do you like to do?

Life Changes

This week as I was about my business I was faced to think about how life changes.  I was at a college campus for work.  I came around the corner and looked and a building was gone.  It have been torn down.  Now for some of you the response would be so what.  Well this building was a place I stayed when I was in high school for student government summer program.  It was a major event in my high school life and a turning point in my life.

I had never thought about as we go along in life and cities expand landmarks are torn down and other monuments to society are put up.  A lot of times we may not think about how those place have had impact on peoples lives in both positive and negative ways.  When does change go to far and when should things be left alone?

I am excited to see what will happen now that life has changed on this campus and also what will happen in my life as it changes.


Pray the Gay away

This political season has brought out some strange people.  One of the presidential candidates says he believes a gay  person can pray the gay away.  Why do they think that something needs to be changed.  They make their argument based on a book that was written centuries ago and a book that has been interpreted by people. They say that their faith makes them say what they say.  Okay so my question is why does their faith have to be my faith?  Where in the bible does it say that my faith has to be the same as the person down the street?  Do we look a like?  Do we have the same hair? Do we have the same eye?  Are we even the same gender?  The answer will be no to all of the questions.  So then why does my faith have to be the same?  So to those idiots who say that I need to be the same as them I say jump off a cliff.  I am going to me who I am.  I am happy with my sexuality and personality.  I will not pray the gay away.

Walk in my Shoes

I don’t know how much you follow politics.  Governor Rick Perry of Texas is going to host a religious event in Texas and invited all of his fellow governors to attend.  Guess how many said they would come to the event?  One said he was going to come and now is backing out.  So why would they not respond to his request.  Well the group he is partnering with for this event says that all gay rights that have been achieved should be taken away.  They are a group from the extreme right.

According to Perry each state should allow for gay marriage or other rights.  He however believes there needs to be a constitutional amendment at the federal level.  Okay now in my book that means he wants it both ways.  In his mind he feels that gay people are wrong in what they feel and do.  I would guess he is one of those who thinks that being gay is a choice and that they can be fixed with repairative therapy.  As to therapy issue it is very clear what American Psychological Association and American Psychiatric Association say that this therapy can cause damaged and that there is nothing to repair when it comes to gay, lesbian, and bisexual men and women.

As to our rights how would he feel if there was a movement to take away all his rights to inheritance and to make decisions for his spouse.  What if we worked to take away the tax breaks for being married.  How about if his spouse were to die we take the right to have his kids.  As a society we have given a lot of rights to heterosexual marriage.  As a society we need to allow others to have the opportunity to the same basic rights.

Now I have heard some of these far right politician say they don’t understand how someone who says they are gay can really do such actions.  I say I don’t understand how some who says they are straight can really do such actions.


Today I was listening to talk radio and they were having a discussion about a statement the Pat Buchanan said.  He said “Your boy” when he was talk about the President to Al Sharpten.  He did not feel that what he said is wrong.  This phrase was used by white people in south to refer to African Americans.

As I was listening further people who were not African-American did not find it to be that offensive.  Which lead me to think about how people rarely think about the words they are using.  People generally speak then think and as a result conflict becomes the outcome.  If we thought more about what we were saying the world would have far less conflict than we have now.  I know that this seems like a simplistic way to look at it but think about it.  How often in your life have the conflict you have had resulted from a misunderstanding of something said.

As for the statement made by Pat Buchanan we need to be more sensitive to those words and phrases that have a derogatory connotations.  There is no excuses for using them.

Music Video

I was surfing this evening and found that MTV turned 30 years old today.  It is amazing to think that it has been that long since music videos were introduced.  In today’s music scene music videos have become common place and it is something that is expected.

When looking at music videos from 30 years ago there was not a lot of special effects or originality to them.  They basically were shot with the musicians in one or maybe two different places.  They were what we would say now as simple.  Yet at the time they were creative and innovative.  Yes they were cutting edge for their time and like all things advancement in digital filming have helped to push the envelop.  I think that they have pushed the envelop to the point where if it is not creative enough people complain.

Where will things be in another 30 years or will music videos go the way of 8 track tapes and cassette tapes?

I’ve Looked at Life

“I’ve looked at life from both sides now.”

I had heard this line from a song today while watching a movie called “Life as a House.”  If you need a good cry I would recommend it.  It made me think that I have been a very lucky person in regards to life.  Well for the most part I have been lucky.  I sometimes forget that the opportunities I have had in my life have been amazing.

I have been able to see some of the most amazing pieces of art in the world.  When I was in college I was given the chance to see an exhibit of some of the most famous painting in the world.  I can remember the trip to this day.  I remember how excited I was before and after.

I can remember the first ballet I was taken to when i was a little kid.  I remember how amazing it was and the beauty and the music.  More than that I remember it was time with my favorite uncle who is not longer here.

I guess what made me think more with the movie and that song is that life is made up a little moments that can impact our lives for many many years or our lifetime.  While the amazing or special may be more vivid others can have the ability to change us profoundly.  Whatever road in life we choose it is the memories we build with those who touch our lives that influence the person we become.