Pray the Gay away

This political season has brought out some strange people.  One of the presidential candidates says he believes a gay  person can pray the gay away.  Why do they think that something needs to be changed.  They make their argument based on a book that was written centuries ago and a book that has been interpreted by people. They say that their faith makes them say what they say.  Okay so my question is why does their faith have to be my faith?  Where in the bible does it say that my faith has to be the same as the person down the street?  Do we look a like?  Do we have the same hair? Do we have the same eye?  Are we even the same gender?  The answer will be no to all of the questions.  So then why does my faith have to be the same?  So to those idiots who say that I need to be the same as them I say jump off a cliff.  I am going to me who I am.  I am happy with my sexuality and personality.  I will not pray the gay away.


Walk in my Shoes

I don’t know how much you follow politics.  Governor Rick Perry of Texas is going to host a religious event in Texas and invited all of his fellow governors to attend.  Guess how many said they would come to the event?  One said he was going to come and now is backing out.  So why would they not respond to his request.  Well the group he is partnering with for this event says that all gay rights that have been achieved should be taken away.  They are a group from the extreme right.

According to Perry each state should allow for gay marriage or other rights.  He however believes there needs to be a constitutional amendment at the federal level.  Okay now in my book that means he wants it both ways.  In his mind he feels that gay people are wrong in what they feel and do.  I would guess he is one of those who thinks that being gay is a choice and that they can be fixed with repairative therapy.  As to therapy issue it is very clear what American Psychological Association and American Psychiatric Association say that this therapy can cause damaged and that there is nothing to repair when it comes to gay, lesbian, and bisexual men and women.

As to our rights how would he feel if there was a movement to take away all his rights to inheritance and to make decisions for his spouse.  What if we worked to take away the tax breaks for being married.  How about if his spouse were to die we take the right to have his kids.  As a society we have given a lot of rights to heterosexual marriage.  As a society we need to allow others to have the opportunity to the same basic rights.

Now I have heard some of these far right politician say they don’t understand how someone who says they are gay can really do such actions.  I say I don’t understand how some who says they are straight can really do such actions.


Today I was listening to talk radio and they were having a discussion about a statement the Pat Buchanan said.  He said “Your boy” when he was talk about the President to Al Sharpten.  He did not feel that what he said is wrong.  This phrase was used by white people in south to refer to African Americans.

As I was listening further people who were not African-American did not find it to be that offensive.  Which lead me to think about how people rarely think about the words they are using.  People generally speak then think and as a result conflict becomes the outcome.  If we thought more about what we were saying the world would have far less conflict than we have now.  I know that this seems like a simplistic way to look at it but think about it.  How often in your life have the conflict you have had resulted from a misunderstanding of something said.

As for the statement made by Pat Buchanan we need to be more sensitive to those words and phrases that have a derogatory connotations.  There is no excuses for using them.

Music Video

I was surfing this evening and found that MTV turned 30 years old today.  It is amazing to think that it has been that long since music videos were introduced.  In today’s music scene music videos have become common place and it is something that is expected.

When looking at music videos from 30 years ago there was not a lot of special effects or originality to them.  They basically were shot with the musicians in one or maybe two different places.  They were what we would say now as simple.  Yet at the time they were creative and innovative.  Yes they were cutting edge for their time and like all things advancement in digital filming have helped to push the envelop.  I think that they have pushed the envelop to the point where if it is not creative enough people complain.

Where will things be in another 30 years or will music videos go the way of 8 track tapes and cassette tapes?

I’ve Looked at Life

“I’ve looked at life from both sides now.”

I had heard this line from a song today while watching a movie called “Life as a House.”  If you need a good cry I would recommend it.  It made me think that I have been a very lucky person in regards to life.  Well for the most part I have been lucky.  I sometimes forget that the opportunities I have had in my life have been amazing.

I have been able to see some of the most amazing pieces of art in the world.  When I was in college I was given the chance to see an exhibit of some of the most famous painting in the world.  I can remember the trip to this day.  I remember how excited I was before and after.

I can remember the first ballet I was taken to when i was a little kid.  I remember how amazing it was and the beauty and the music.  More than that I remember it was time with my favorite uncle who is not longer here.

I guess what made me think more with the movie and that song is that life is made up a little moments that can impact our lives for many many years or our lifetime.  While the amazing or special may be more vivid others can have the ability to change us profoundly.  Whatever road in life we choose it is the memories we build with those who touch our lives that influence the person we become.


Equal Rights

I don’t know how many of you out there have been following what happened recently in New York.  The exciting thing that there is gay marriage in 30 days.  I am excited that another state has moved forward in bringing equal rights closer for all people.

What I found interesting is how the Catholic Church among other churches first was lobbying against the passage.  Saying it is in the bible and that is how God created it to be.  Well first didn’t know that God had a direct line to anyone person to say exactly what he/she wants for marriage.  If you even look at the bible marriage was a contract between two men over the property one owned.  Yeah women were property to men.  If that is what the church wants us to go back to they should be lobbying that the laws change to only allow men to arrange marriage for women.

The other thing I thought was interesting that there was a push to make sure that churches and property that they owned could not be used for a gay marriage.  I am not sure what the final law says but I understand they were also trying to protect businesses from having to be required to do or participate in gay marriages.  To this I would say if I was going to have a marriage I wouldn’t want to have it in a place that was not accepting of me why would I want to go there for my marriage or even go there to worship.  If a business doesn’t want to my money because of my sexuality then why would I spend my money there.  There are choices in the world and I will be make choices for my happiness and who will respect me.

Marketing to GLBT community has become a billion dollar industry and as a community I am sure there are accepting businesses that would love to have a part of the income.  To New York elected officials thanks for taking the stand for equality.  For those who voted against it well I hope you can live with your conscious.

Be careful what you say

Today I was watching a movie I got from Netflicks.  It is Prayers for Bobby.  If you have not seen it I would recommend it.  It is about a young gay man who ended up committing suicide as a result of what others were telling him.

This young man could not find the support he needed to live a full life.  When he was able to find it because of what had been told him he couldn’t let go or open up.  I don’t know how many times I have heard that words have power.  I say it is so true they can influence people in a positive or negative way.  For those who may not have a high self-esteem it can be very damaging.  When someone is damaged they sometimes can’t recover from it.

In the movie the mother of the young man realized what happened but it was to late.  She would later go about to make a difference.  But why should we wait till something bad happens or we are forced to change.  We should change now and we should see what can be done to help other to open their eyes to what is around them.  Maybe they will embrace the world around them and maybe not.  But at least they will grow a little.

I hope that I can inspire those Bobby’s in the world to know that life is better and to keep working at it.  Life is amazing and we can make a difference.